We long for a sense of community where we fit in with people. I believe there are two reasons for this longing. First, everyone wants to feel appreciated, that others want and need them. Second, we simply need encouragement and support from others.
People look for this sense of community in many places. The family, for example, is the first and most natural venue providing this setting. Neighborhoods, social gatherings and work offer you a chance to get to gather with others. Some youths, who feel unwanted, turn to gangs.
The Lord’s church is the best and most important community of people. The true church will never give up on you, but you may give up on it. Your brethren will tell you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear. Christians are not concerned about who you were, but who you are. They don’t judge you on trivial matters, ethnicity, or race.
If you don’t feel valued or important in the Lord’s church, perhaps the problem is not the way the church is treating you but the way you are treating the church. Volunteer your talents and time, and be persistent in your offer to help.